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Hello Reader,

We are a few weeks away from the start of Season 10 of You Were Made for This, but I want to share an example of accidental encouragement I experienced the other day.  

I called a friend one afternoon last week and started the conversation with “How are you doing?”

He didn’t respond with the default answer most of us give: “Fine.”  I’ve talked before that “fine” is often an acronym for Feelings Inside Not Expressed.

No, he told me his day started off well, but then a number of issues came up with people that were frustrating and irritating.  With a sigh of disappointment in himself he said, “I didn’t respond in a Godly manner to those people like I should have.”

His comment did not come from a place of guilt or shame. Rather, it came from a place of I want to do better, and with God’s help I know I can.

What encouraged me was that I struggle with the same thing my friend struggles with. When people and circumstances irritate and frustrate me, I often do not respond in a Godly manner either. But hearing my friend sharing his “I want to do better” attitude gave me hope. Hope that with God’s help, I can do better, too.

My friend wasn’t intending to encourage me, but he did by a brief off-the-cuff comment that revealed his desire to be more of the person God created him to be. It made me want the same for myself.

May the same desire be true for all of us.

Until next time, I wish you all the joy that you can wish.*

John Certalic

* The Merchant of Venice, Act III, scene 2

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